Sexting Guide - How to Write the Dirtiest Flirtiest Texts

Forget oysters, chocolate and sexy lingerie; a few dirty words, perhaps accompanied with a sexy selfie, and you’ll have superhero seduction powers.

But much like any other sensual form, sexting is a fine and delicate art and must be approached with respect. The right medley of letters and imagery can entice more hunger and longing than any other form of seduction. After all, the likes of Casanova and Don Juan made their most potent allurement with mere words.

First, some general tips.

• Start nice and slow. Sexting is a part of the flirtatious stage of intimacy, after all, so tease, tease, tease.
• Be direct, precise and descriptive. Sensory descriptions will elicit deep sighs from your receiver. The more detailed you are, the more they will envelop you in their seductive fantasies.
• But not too descriptive. If you’re waffling on about the intricacies of the lingerie you’re wearing: where you bought it, what the salesperson said to you when you tried it on, what material it’s made from, what the washing instructions on the tag are and so forth, you will very quickly turn what could have been an “I need to take my clothes off I’m getting heavy under the collar” moment to a lukewarm “Ha” moment. Not great. Plus, there are moments when you want to tease and therefore being vague is desirable. This is where the ellipsis (...) comes in handy.
• Personalise it. Attractive people are not blessed with merely good looks; it’s the way they make us feel that evokes deeper emotions in us. Use their name, refer to shared moments, make it unique to them, so they feel like the sext is for their eyes only and that you’re not broadcasting a mass message like some marketing agency.
• Use your flair. Be creative with your wording and imagery. Sometimes more is less, especially with photos. Use different media or apps which are available - there is so much to choose from!

Now for the juicy part you’ve all been waiting for. Below are some examples of sexts which have been tried and proven to be effective for both women and men.

Cheeky starters...

• “I had a dream about you last night…”
  This will open up the conversation nicely. The person on the other end will have no choice but to say “Oh yeah? What about?”
• “What do you think: this or that?”
  Send this with two photos of you wearing two different bras/undies or you topless in two different pairs of jeans. Spice it up however you like.
• “I’m not wearing any panties today. Just thought I’d let you know.”
• “Stop filling my mind with naughty thoughts.”
• “Know what?” Wait for the “What?” And fill in the blanks.
• “Watching you (fill in the blanks) got me so horny, I decided not to wear any undies today…”
• “You have permission.”
  He/she will reply with “Permission to do what?” And you will write something like
  “To take me hard and fast the second you walk through the door tonight.”
• “You have me soooo…..”
  Again, wait for the “What?!” Receiving something like this out of the blue will ensue some pretty juicy texting. Have fun with it!
• “Have you ever played with yourself at work? I just did. Thinking about you.”

Responses to keep the juices flowing…

• “Stop making me so wet/hard, I can’t get any work done.”
• “My panties are soaked."

Sexy messages to write as a preview of what’s to cum, pardon me, come…

• “Call your boss and tell her you won’t be in tomorrow. You’re going to need a whole day to recover from what I have planned for you tonight…”
• “I’ve been thinking about how I’m going to bend you over the couch tonight with your jeans around your ankles.”
• “So what are you wearing for our date tonight? I’m thinking I might wear my come take me heels…”
• “When we get home tonight, I want you to…”
  Fill in the blanks.
• “I can’t stop thinking about…”
  Fill in the blanks of shared moments from your past or of what is to come in your next encounter.
• “Imagine this…”
  And then wait for him/her to respond with “What?” Anticipation is most effective - waiting for something makes it more exciting. Then start slow, could be something like you and your beau meeting somewhere after work. Send the messages one by one and wait for their responses. And then describe each step of the way and what will happen.

Messages to convey what you want…

• “If you were here, I would slowly spread your legs and spend all night sucking and licking your clit.”
• “Do you prefer eye contact when I’m sucking you off?”
• “Tell me all the dirty things you think about when you masturbate.”
• “Do you like it when I touch myself here?”
  Send a matching pic.
• “Threesomes: Yay or Nay?”
• “Touch yourself and take a selfie so I can watch you.”
• “Just looking at you in that top is making me wet/hard…”
• “Is it just me or is the thought of me with another girl a major turn on?”
  Change this hot one-liner to anything you want to try in the bedroom.
• “I want to give myself to you, have you do with me as you please.”
• “I was thinking how good it would be if you used me as your sex toy tonight…”
• “So would you ever (fill in the blanks.)”

Sexy messages to write the next day.

• “I’m walking side to side after last night…”
• “I can still taste you. Hmmmmmm…”
• “I’ve never had a man/woman finish me the way you did last night.”
• “I can’t think straight after last night…”
• “My bedsheets still smell like you…”

The above are just ideas, a template if you will, of how to do flirtatious sexting. You will, obviously, need to personalise it to you and your partner in order to make it more organic. With time as you become more confident, you will bring an element of improv into it, which will make the entire experience far more interesting for you both.

Should it evolve to the “next stage” you needn’t turn to any blog for inspiration, an X-rated movie will have plenty of helpful pointers for you to take on.

So my little femme fatales and tempters, get your phones out, have fun and don’t forget how sexy you are!

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Written by Maggie May
Maggie May is a sexologist and a writer. She is a lover of all things sensual and sexual.